The Worst Haters Are In Your Inner Circle, Not Outside It.

The only time friends and family ever seem to want to be a part of what you're doing is when whatever it is you've got going on is doing well. When your projects and ambitions gain traction, suddenly phone numbers begin working, they no longer "miss" your texts, and it doesn't take weeks to respond to something you asked for. You can't get too frustrated over it, though. No one around you ever had ambitions like yours. Or if they did, it certainly wasn't to the degree you carry, or the passion that they once had died out long ago.

Typically, the people around you don't believe it's possible to elevate one's life situation, to branch out and do things that have never been thought of or attempted before within the family & friends circle. And when they see someone like you trying to do it, they think one of two things: you'll eventually fall back to Earth and realize you weren't meant to be anything more than what the rest of them were, or that you'll give up before it goes anywhere, regardless of the potential your ideas or project carries. Worst of all, though, is that your circle simply doesn't believe you can do it. No one in the family ever has; no one among your friends have ever gotten anywhere. So the assumption is that you won't either.

Seeing you grind is uncomfortable for those watching you while doing nothing themselves.

Somewhere along the way, all those people you consider friends and family lost their way. They've accepted that life will spin and turn them in whichever direction it desires, and they carelessly go along with the current. You coming through trying to disrupt the direction of the wind is seen as a annoyance. Why? Because seeing you grind is uncomfortable for those watching you while doing nothing themselves. The worst haters are the ones in your own circle, not outside it. People hate feeling pressured, and nothing does it more than seeing their friend or relative moving with a purpose, with a fire in their spirit to reach a higher plane of existence, to crawl out from struggle, to be more than the average 9-5 minimum wage worker.

Knowing this, it isn't so difficult to understand that you won't be taken seriously at first. They've seen many come and go, and statistically you probably aren't meant to be the difference. But it doesn't stop you, does it? And if it might, it shouldn't. No one got anywhere reading the statistics and deciding "you know what, I think I won't try after all." I shun statistics. In fact, I block them out. Because the only way to truly know if you're part of the numbers or not is to try. You won't know if you're the exception if you never try and be. Why disqualify yourself before you make the first steps?

Those at the bottom don't want to see you doing better than they are.

There are two groups of people discouraging you from reaching the greatness you're destined for: the people at the top, and the ones at the bottom. And at the moment, you happen to be squeezed between the two.

Those at the top don't want competition, so they'll make videos, write books and blogs pushing out these statistics that convince you not to leave your 9-5. There's less room at the top, so the more people who climb, the more who have to jump at the summit. Those at the bottom don't want to see you doing better than they are. When you're just as much a failure as them, it comforts them. It makes them feel good and even justified that they never bothered to leave their dead end job. You failing will allow them to sleep easier at night knowing they are stuffing unemployment checks under the mattress because the prospects of doing real, grueling work is terrifying.

Friends and family always have the famous response loaded in the chamber:

"See, I told you so."

They're ready to fire that statement at you the moment you run into a hiccup. Cocked and loaded, they take aim at your head waiting quietly in the shadows of generational struggle. I can't stress enough how important it is to take chances. The only way you can land somewhere else is to take the leap. And as long as you sacrifice every ounce of energy perfecting and pushing your business or project, you'll at the very least go a lot further than the naysayers ever have. That's probably worth the satisfaction alone.

No one wants to take the stairs; Everyone wants to take the elevator and meet you at the top.

You may have a lot to lose if you fail, but you have monumentally more to gain if you succeed. And that's when the goof troop come crawling from the reception-less corners of their world and enjoy hanging around you all of a sudden. Your phone is blowing up, when before it was the reverse. You're busy all the time when prior to success it was them. No one wants to take the stairs; Everyone wants to take the elevator and meet you at the top. No one wants to know how many flights of struggle you had to endure to get to the rooftop. But they certainly enjoy the view, courtesy of your blood-soaked journey to provide it to them.

Stay hungry. Always. Don't take it personal when it seems like during your darkest moments no one seems to be around to help or comfort you. Consider your trial a crucible; your trials of fire are sculpting you into a sharp, clean sword. A sword required to cut through the distractions and dilemma. If you're reading this and more than a few times you had to stop because it was too relatable to what you're going through --- you're already on the right track. You simply have to stay the course. Don't ever give in. Don't ever give up.

And when the doubters come flocking with their hands out, don't take it personal. You just became the shining beacon in a community that sits under shadows of failure.

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