Loyalty Is the Easiest Thing To Promise, Yet the Hardest Thing To Prove

People say things. A lot of things. Words are the cheapest commodity a person can own. In most cases, they're worthless; their only real significance is determined by the actions of the individual speaking them. For some reason, everyone wants to earn your favor, your trust. For one reason or another, the first thing someone has to offer is their word. What you need to understand is that this isn't to be considered a kind gesture. If anything, it should be considered an insult until proven otherwise.

Don't be so gullible to give instant credibility to someone's promises. The words sound sweet, but if you don't hold them accountable, their actions will produce sour results. You'll be left with the tab as they skate out of your life, recollecting their empty promises to deliver to the next sucker who crosses their path. Despite what you may think, people are really easy to manage:

You simply have to stop having expectations of anyone.

Trust as you go. Trust as they prove their word. The more a person holds true, the more considerations you can afford them, not a minute before then. But don't misunderstand me: I'm not suggesting that you be cynical and immediately believe that no one will ever hold their word no matter what. I'm simply saying that you shouldn't invest too much of your mental energy into their words --- what they say they'll do and by what time, all things that have yet to be proven. You need to pre-emptively move and make preparations in the case a person doesn't come through; don't formulate all your plans on the assumption they will. This will save you significant energy and frustration.

You must sharpen your Independence; everything you have going on has to work when only you are involved, has to prove successful in the event that it's just you. This ensures that no matter which friend, relative or relationship partner falls through on their guarantees, your plans are unaffected. We especially tend to place pre-mature emotional investments in someone we admire, or are dating. Our infatuation and attraction to that person disables our trusty bullsh*t detector. Their words carry undeserved weight and significance because of our feelings. Things only get worse once they let you down, and you're left dizzy and confused as to why those promises felt so strong and real, only to be illusions fluttering in the wind. So remember:

Your loyalty is a premium item. And no one gets a discount.

No amount of sweet whispers can penetrate the strength of your independence. And as long as you don't fall into the binding webs of words that feel good to the heart, you'll be perfectly able to navigate through the lies. In the case of people and their promises, your mind is more an ally than your heart. Our hearts are more innocent, more forgiving and trustworthy. And certainly, the heart has its place and purpose. But the mind is there to filter access to the heart. Only the truly special individuals will be allowed inside. All others get rejected, and it's the responsibility of your mind to ensure no one slips through the cracks. Anytime someone gives me their word --- they'll do this or that --- I give them a nod, and proceed to conduct my business as if they'd said nothing at all. I'd rather be surprised you did come through, over being frustrated and hurt that you didn't.

When people see that they can be repeat offenders and you keep allowing them to take you for a ride, they'll never feel pressured to respect your time and energy.

Anyone that wants to be involved in what I'm doing, or want to earn my affection have tough hills to climb. Not because I'm jaded or because I'm difficult to work with, it's because I value my emotional autonomy and can't have some scrub come into my house of independence and start breaking furniture. You need to force people to respect your time and efforts as much as you do. There are consequences for breaking your word, repercussions for falling off or disappearing. You don't get additional chances, not without paying heavy emotional reparations -- and that's if I'm a good mood.

Now, nobody is perfect; It isn't realistic to think anyone can be 100% on time all of the time, or have impeccable control over random life situations. But it's not crazy to think that most people who are genuine about being in your circle, being a part of what you've got going on, would never make promises they can't deliver on, nor offer loyalty they know they can't provide. Those type of actions are for people whose words can be purchased at a cheap auction house and resold for half the value. 

Loyalty Is the Easiest Thing To Promise, Yet the Hardest Thing To Prove

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